Ep 15: True Belonging + The Desire to Fit in

Jun. 27

BELONGING: What is true belonging? Why is it that so many of us feel incredibly alone even when surrounded by family, colleagues and friends?

In this solo episode, I get real, raw and vulnerable and openly share some of the struggles I’ve experienced for most of my life by confusing what it means to belong with the appearance of fitting in and the desire to be understood.

Thanks to Brené Brown's powerful and very important work on belonging, you'll learn the difference between true belonging and fitting in and how courage play an important role in fully owning who we are.

I also reference The Breakfast Club movie as an incredibly accurate representation of the quest to belong and how we all face the same challenges behind the curtains - regardless of what it looks like on the outside. GenXers, you're gonna love this.

Look, I don’t have life or myself all figured out and despite what you may see on social media, I struggle too. I really, really do. Some days a little. Some days a LOT.

I struggle with things like self acceptance, comparison and fully embracing every complex fraction and layer of what makes me who I am.

If you’ve ever struggled to belong, this one’s for you my friend.

In This Episode:

The difference between belonging and fitting in
The quest to belong isn’t just for teenagers
My personal struggles with belonging and why I resisted being accepted
Brené Brown’s work on belonging
What The Breakfast Club movie can teach us about real connection

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